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January 31, 2014

We recently announced the launch of our year-long celebration of ten years in business (click here, if you missed it), and we’re excited to kick-off our February event!

This is a month devoted to L♥VE, and if you follow us at Elder Care Guides, then you know that we love old people. So we’re holding a ten-day contest to find out: why do you love old people? Send a tweet to @eldercareguides, and tell us in 140 characters or less something that you love about old people. On Monday February 10th, we’ll select our favorite tweet, and if you’re our winner, we’ll send a bouquet of fresh flowers to the person of your choosing (of any age, anywhere in the U.S.), to arrive on Valentine’s Day. See rules, below.

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There’s so much to love. The wisdom, the spirit, the laughs, the honesty. Our older clients are the center of everything we do at Elder Care Guides, and we believe that having a skilled, knowledgeable, 24/7 professional to manage the details so that they can focus on their loving relationships is one of the most important benefits that families receive from working with a care manager.

We look forward to hearing from you!


  1. We’ll accept up to ten tweets per handle, so feel free to tweet daily!
  2. Tag us @eldercareguides, so we’ll be sure to see it.
  3. The #iloveoldpeople hashtag is optional (but encouraged!)
  4. Tweets must be posted before 11:59pm (Pacific time) on Sunday February 9, 2014.
  5. The winning tweet will be selected by Elder Care Guides staff vote on Monday February 10, 2014.
  6. The winner will be announced on Monday February 10th via Twitter.
  7. We will contact the winner via private message on Monday February 10th, to arrange for the flower delivery details, which will remain confidential.

Recently in my work as a Care Manager I’ve witnessed many of the families I work with grappling with loss. As we age most of us expect a loss of ability, functioning, movement, and health. But the reality is that expecting these losses is much different than actually experiencing them and living through them. Not only do our older loved ones experience these losses, their family members do as well. It’s not easy to see your mom lose her ability to drive and have her license removed. It’s hard to talk to your grandma on the phone when she doesn’t remember who you are. Aging affects the entire family unit.

Caregiver assistance

Processing loss can be incredibly difficult.  I’ve met family members who desperately want more help and home care for their loved ones, yet mom and dad adamantly refuse. “We’re fine.” Unfortunately it sometimes takes a tragic event, like a fall or an overdose of medication, before an aging loved one is convinced they could use some assistance in the home.

Our culture emphasizes individuality, ability, success, and independence. As we age we need more help with getting through our days, be it with driving, showering, grocery shopping, etc. It is incredibly difficult to admit that we can no longer care for ourselves on our own. No one wants to admit that they are “old,” and that they can’t care for themselves alone anymore. Many may feel humiliated, or that they are less of a person.

I think we need to change this pattern. It’s okay to ask for help, and it can actually radically improve your quality of life. Every day, I see that a little help goes a long way. I recently started working with a couple in their 80’s who live independently. They now receive home care for just four hours a day, and within a few weeks the husband has seen his wife perk up, become more talkative, and more alive. He has also felt relief of not having to do everything for his wife himself. He has time to ride his stationary bike and work on the computer. Bringing in that little bit of help has gone a long way.

It’s emotionally difficult to overcome the losses associated with aging. But with support and acceptance this process is easier. Talking about what you are experiencing with friends, family, or a professional counselor can help. Caregiver support groups can also be a source of normalization and support. You don’t have to suffer alone; this is a common experience, and help is out there, so don’t wait until it’s too late. Call us at Elder Care Guides, or reach out to another agency in your area for support and guidance.

We’re now a few days into 2014, and all of us here at Elder Care Guides are excited to launch a year-long celebration of our tenth year in business! From our humble beginnings (as a two-person operation working from the home office of our President, Norman Hannay), to having now cared for hundreds of families throughout San Diego County, with services provided by the best team in town, it’s been my great honor to have been a part of it. Throughout the year, we’ll be announcing some fun activities designed to thank those who have supported us over the years, as well as make some new friends and connections.

This morning, we posted an announcement on our Facebook page that we’re giving away five pairs of tickets to see this Friday evening’s showing of Nebraska, at our local cinema. Nebraska is Alexander Payne’s new film, starring Bruce Dern and Will Forte, about a difficult father-son relationship, and the finding of meaning and a sense of purpose in late life. This is what we’re all about here at Elder Care Guides, so we’re excited to share in the experience of the film with our ten lucky winners.

If we’ve given them all away by the time you read this post: don’t despair. There will be much more fun to be had during the year. Follow along on all of our social media sites, so that you don’t miss the next one!

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